Saturday, January 3, 2015

'2015 New Year's Resolutions'

To be or not to be? that is the question...
A new year, a new beginning, new opportunities, new expectations and new perspectives. As the very first days of 2015 passed me by, I caught myself thinking, how much of a fresh start can we make in our new way to encounter, how far can we leave the trace of our past behind?

The year of 'closing circles' I though to myself, in order to create a clean blank slate, you must fist let go of what is holding you back to your past. Bad and old habits, ex-relationships, bad experiences, unreliable friends, unhealthy lifestyle, etc.
We constantly think of a new year, as a reboot as a new chance to make once more things right.
But how far do we stick to our promises? do we make of our resolutions a proposition or a done deal?
Someone once said to me, 'unless you close one door your won't be able to see another one opening.' So I wondered, do we miss out on opportunities for focusing our energies and efforts on what is not worth our time? When do we draw the line between our standards and what we require?

Throughout my experience on dating in Dubai, I have found so intriguing and amusing how a man's mindset can work. In a city of wonders and high expectations, we all think we can be and have better, satisfaction becomes a momentary matter of seconds, like an ADD where once you may think you are satisfied with something or someone, you turn the other cheek to check out the rest of your options on the table. If your head is nodding right now, you know that is true.
Just like women change their underwear, men change their mind. From relationship views, to short term and long term goals, jobs, girlfriends/boyfriends, friends and even taste of food.
When do men ever know what they want?
I have heard men can be fairly simple, but from my personal experience I have been faced with a couple of drama queens you don't want to mess with, lol. Since when have men become so complicated? When have we desmasculated men to the point of self-obssesion and narcism? has society become too demanding towards our gender differences?

In a country like the UAE and a cosmopolitan city like Dubai, being a single working individual is viewed as more than common and normal, but in terms of self-development it can be either self-fulfilling or a weapon of self-destruction.
As an individual, one has to learn to stand up for yourself in order to survive in a judgmental society, you must know your value, standards and self-respect, in order to demand from other's what you expect. As someone once said 'only those who are stable with themselves, can be well with others', so I encourage all my readers out there, let this be the year to find your self-fulfillment, to find your center and balance and believe in the realization that there is only you but no one else like you.

I wish you all a happy new year, may all the good and bad experiences of this 2015 build you up to become a better person, the person you desire to become.