'Those Wicked Games We Play'

Those wicked games we play. Wicked games we play for love.
Such fools we are for what we wish for, when anything can be and anything can happen.
Life is a path of unpredictability and love will always be something no one can ever explain, but rather feel and live for. But when do you draw the line between love and infatuation?

I caught myself thinking about the sacrifices we frequently make for 'love' to have and keep what is unattainable. The hunger for what one can't have 'the fobbiden fruit of desire'.
Those unfufilled desires that drive us nuts and passionate for life, where we risk it all, with no regrets at all. And the fear and risk of loss, the passion and desire, all for a ceaseless love.

And from time to time, we are drawned into the past, hunted by our memories wishing for those that we once hold on to, to come back and those memories once more to become a present reality.
Why do we often desire for the past to be our present as the future passes right infront of us?

When it comes to love, how often do we tend to think and retrace the course of our relationships, always over analyzing  what could have been said and done?

We need to learn to swim out of the dark whole of the what if's, before we miss out on the opportunities of the present. I belive in love, as a state of mind where you draw your ideas outside the line. 

Don't play it safe, play it kind be yourself and you shall find.

'An Owe To Myself'

'I still got sand in my shoes, and I can't seem to shake the thought of you'
Infatuated, hunted by the moments we once shared, I can't seem to remember to forget you.
As the days pass by, your face slowly fades away, but your presence somehow still remains.

I found myself caught up in the thought of 'what if', wondering what went wrong why you went away. The fear of facing a warm embrace, reflected on your words in denial, your long overdue distance and empty space. You hold on to your pain, in your walls it still remains; reminding yourself not to go through that again; it blinds you from those who may have still remained.

Letting go of your past, is the hardest part in this case. But though distance in time you will find what others couldn't give you and appreciate what you couldn't see and embrace.
In your eyes I could see the doubt the fear of getting hurt again.
Self defensive, regretful and overly careful.
Boy oh boy, if only if only we could have known, how to get lost in each other's warm embrace.

No attachment, that is what we misplaced as our emotions took over and the inevitable made us this way. The thoughts of what ifs will forever remain.
It was a pleasure to have met you, your memory never in disgrace and the lessons your tough me this way, I can never repay.
Thank you for making my skin a little bit thicker, myself a little but wiser. You made me stronger.
Therefore, I owe to myself to never regret, to not take back steps and to always look back at you as as a lesson I'll never forget.

'The Awfully Familiar Truth'

I found myself thinking the other day, why is it that we always want is unattainable?We seem to love being challenged to what is hard to reach out for. Our sourroundings tell us no, while our mind is yelling yes.
We feel determined and highly motivated to achive what we cant have; to swim against the current until we hit bottom ground and sometimes that is when our expectations are no longer what we where looking for. And at that point, that is what I call 'the ugly truth'.

When it comes to relationships and reality shows its true colors, nothing is as good as it seemed, therefore we realize for what was it all worth? 

So I wondered is it a lack of determination, passion for life or a simple fear of aproaching the unknown? that leads us to become so difficult to be attainable and at the same time too available to those who dont want to be attained. 

Both men and woman have somehow gotten lost in transition and we have lost our determination to find the one. The one true love to spend the rest of your life with. I may sound naiive but I belive there are different kinds of love in this world, and the only way to attain those is to reach out to them.
Therefore we should live fearless, free and willing to have a taste the unknown. Open to new experiences and willing to learn from each other.

Life has its ways of teaching us how to achive what we least expect.

'The Dangerous Love Affair'

In a city of millions, everyone in Dubai has their own love story, from first love to love denied, to everlasting love and everything in between.
In the crib of amusement and success, love can be found but it can also be withheld. Many are willing to open up to the idea of falling in love all over again, betting all cards on their table and sometimes all eggs on one basket; those tend risk it all with no regrets at all, passionetley look forward to what might come next. As others rather take back steps and tend to keep it all safe in their pockets.

So I found myself wondering, just when you have finally picked up the pieces left behind form your last heart break and you hopelessly give love another chance, how many times are we willing to put ourselves out there and open up to someone new?
Do we constantly fall for the same kind or another one who might just bite the dust?

What is it about love that terrifies us to the core, where we get to a point of running a way without further explanation. Is it really that we are so scared to face what may happen if we give in too deep? or is it simply that we prefer standing on the safe side of our comfort zone.
How often do we take a chance to experience something new, someone different?

Change is constantly taught of as a warning, instead of an embrace for something better, something new, an opportunity for a positive outcome.
Someone once said 'at the end you will only regret the chances you didn't take, the things you didn't say and the actions your didn't stand for'.
I believe the past gives us the strength and wisdom to face our present, it builds up who you are today. Therefore, we should be thankful and embrace every experience, learn from it and look forward to what the future might bring.

Imagine what will it be of life, if our path would always be predictable.

Therefore be odd, be weird, be different, be careless and most of all be proud of who you are stand up for yourself with dignity and don't be afraid. At the end only your happiness and satisfaction will matter and those who you share it with, will be the lucky one's who appreciate it enough to be part of it.

Remember this, 'your life is yours, and yours alone' live it, love it and embrace it. 

'2015 New Year's Resolutions'

To be or not to be? that is the question...
A new year, a new beginning, new opportunities, new expectations and new perspectives. As the very first days of 2015 passed me by, I caught myself thinking, how much of a fresh start can we make in our new way to encounter, how far can we leave the trace of our past behind?

The year of 'closing circles' I though to myself, in order to create a clean blank slate, you must fist let go of what is holding you back to your past. Bad and old habits, ex-relationships, bad experiences, unreliable friends, unhealthy lifestyle, etc.
We constantly think of a new year, as a reboot as a new chance to make once more things right.
But how far do we stick to our promises? do we make of our resolutions a proposition or a done deal?
Someone once said to me, 'unless you close one door your won't be able to see another one opening.' So I wondered, do we miss out on opportunities for focusing our energies and efforts on what is not worth our time? When do we draw the line between our standards and what we require?

Throughout my experience on dating in Dubai, I have found so intriguing and amusing how a man's mindset can work. In a city of wonders and high expectations, we all think we can be and have better, satisfaction becomes a momentary matter of seconds, like an ADD where once you may think you are satisfied with something or someone, you turn the other cheek to check out the rest of your options on the table. If your head is nodding right now, you know that is true.
Just like women change their underwear, men change their mind. From relationship views, to short term and long term goals, jobs, girlfriends/boyfriends, friends and even taste of food.
When do men ever know what they want?
I have heard men can be fairly simple, but from my personal experience I have been faced with a couple of drama queens you don't want to mess with, lol. Since when have men become so complicated? When have we desmasculated men to the point of self-obssesion and narcism? has society become too demanding towards our gender differences?

In a country like the UAE and a cosmopolitan city like Dubai, being a single working individual is viewed as more than common and normal, but in terms of self-development it can be either self-fulfilling or a weapon of self-destruction.
As an individual, one has to learn to stand up for yourself in order to survive in a judgmental society, you must know your value, standards and self-respect, in order to demand from other's what you expect. As someone once said 'only those who are stable with themselves, can be well with others', so I encourage all my readers out there, let this be the year to find your self-fulfillment, to find your center and balance and believe in the realization that there is only you but no one else like you.

I wish you all a happy new year, may all the good and bad experiences of this 2015 build you up to become a better person, the person you desire to become.

'Social Communication has Gone Mainstream'

What happened to those good old days, when approaching a girl to say hello and ask for her number was considered OK? Its OFFICIAL, communication has gone mainstream!
This days with Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Whatsapp and let's not forget Tinder, communication has become YES easier but can we state for the better?

Let's catfish the truth, I have asked several of my girlfriends and we could all not help but wonder, why is it that guys this days look and don't approach? even when they are clearly showing signs of interests. And then you have apps like Tinder where it is just oh so easy to break the ice with a 'hey baby you look so sexy' kinda line, LOL seriously? lets face it 99% of men wouldn't have the gutts to open a conversation like that face to face. 
So we came to the realization that, besides how easy and simple Social Media this days may facilitate our lives, to the point of determining who will be our next date on the line, it has in so many way's changed the natural, humane and traditional social communication. 
Guys no longer approach but instead they rather swipe right. Apps like Tinder have open a world of unrealistic expectations to both men and woman, who tend to think they have the world on a swipe of their fingers.

For example, ladies have you realized when we go to a bar, a club or even sometimes a restaurant, it's all eyes and faces, gestures but no words, in fact most of the guys are on their phones texting, probably trying to catfish the girl besides them on Tinder. Have we seriously gotten to this point?
And what about the whole pretentious loooong endless conversations, when face to face both men and women turn out to be something else? Gentlemen, it may be easy to lie on a chat room, but you can't lie about you height, accent, nationality and even size for that matter. All that chatty talk, just flushes down the toilet on the very first seconds of our very first impression. Although, I do have to admit some times for the better others for the worst. 

So here is a little tip for all of you single bachelors and bachelorettes out there 'this Tinder syndrome has got to stop' we either learn how to use it, or we might as well call it a sex app, YES you read it. 
Most of us are tired of being treated as tenderloin on a butcher's shop, being judged as easy just because we are on Tinder; FYI it is meant to be a social app to meet people, not to arrange your next one night stand.
So let's to take matters into our own hands, set your standards straight, don't lower your boundaries, believe me if a guy or a girl likes you he or she will move mountains to get to know you.
And no matter how annoying is that little voice inside of you, learn to control it, you are not alone and YES there are plenty of 'fish in the sea' if you don't believe me then just swipe right!

Dedicated to all my single ladies out there, don't despair 'monogamist may have not gone mainstream just yet, but who said is impossible, when the word itself says Im-possible.'
XOXO

'Angels on The Moon'

"Don't wake me 'cause I'm dreaming of angels on the moon, where everyone you know, never leaves too soon."

I dream of you as I am laying, I dream of saying goodbye, and I wonder is this our final and last farewell? Ancious by the feeling of getting away, am I leaving to soon? leaving all behind, our memories, our home, our life. 

I tell myself a new beggining approaches, I can begin to see the silver lining.

"Do you know, that every day's the first, of the rest of our lives?"

Confused I keep reminding myself I dont need to understand, I just need to accept with no regrets, no taking back steps. 

I try to not look behind, as I now know there is someone else, and you seek for a new opportunity. It is you, this new kind of you, who gets to be and try new chances in life; opportunities that may have pass you by, second chances to a new life, a new begining, a new reality.

Five years of my life, packed up in carton boxes, all our memories left behind, who would have though 3 months behind I would have been the one saying goodbye.
I guess trully all good things come to and end, is this the last of our goodbyes?

"You can tell me all your thoughts, about the stars that fill polluted skies and show me where you run to, when no one's left to take your side. But don't tell me where the road ends 'cause I just don't wanna know, no I don't wanna know"

Inspirational Source: Thriving Ivory-Angels On The Moon

"I rather live in a dream than a blurred reality"..

Time stands still, as sweat drips down my neck and I lay down under the AC at 40°.
I cought myself thinking as time suddenly stops and the sleepless city seems so quiet. Its the first days of the coming summer, the heat of the desert melts what is left of my thoughts tonight.

Dare to dream big, love unconditionally and give without expecting, resonates in my head. To live life with regrets, is like living and taking every back step. Got to take each opportunity as if it was the last one and make of each day as if there was no tomorrow. No matter the circumsatances to follow your instinct, listen to your reason and don't silence your heart.

As I sit looking out on my window, I think of you once again, of how much I could have said and done but now it is all gone. 

I have no regrets, no taking back steps.
I now belong to the present and im open to what the future has to offer, because I rather live in my own dream than a blurred reality.

My dream of life and high expectations, where I might be disappointed at times, but at least satisfied that I tried, that I killed the what if? forever.
What if I could have done this, or could have said that, or be who I am not?
Today is today because yesterday was meant to be the way it was, and tomorrow will be another endless day of probabilities. That is life a blurred reality and we live inside our psychedelic dreams.

"Three Meters Above The Sky"

Three meters above the sky, no matter how hard you try, you will never feel or live the same moment twice.

We tend to look back in time and wish for those moments that took our breath away in life, to come back to us as clear as our memories. But life itself takes us to where we are today. Life builds us and molds us accordingly to whom we are ment to be and become.
Moments that are born from the heart, gone in split of a second as flashbacks in our minds, memories that become and we wish to live twice. We will learn to love and love again, but it will never be the same kind of love, one that fufills you makes you feel whole, and happiness will be our biggest challenge to pursue in life.

They say live every moment as if it was the last one, appreciate each and every part of your present, and stop looking back and being ancious about the future. It is the present that defines who we are, every moment, decision and our future outcomes.

It is up to you and I, to live the present and make of today a memorable experience.

And so we live and we die, and all that will be remembered is what we gave, who we where and what we did for other's and ourselves. Learn to give, without expecting. Love without boundaries. And learn with hunger to feed your curiosity.

Then you will create remarkable moments that will take you "three meters above the sky", living life without boundaries, experiencing everything that feeds our curiosity, learning from the wise experienced and being who you want to be, careless of anyone's opinion might be. 

"After all there is only one like you, you are unique, you are individual, you are one of a kind". 

"Is Dating in Dubai Easier Than Saying Goodbye..?"

An unexpected emancipation was brought upon my life, after more than 4 years in a relationship I've found myself single again, advising other desperate girls not to make the same mistakes.
It is not easy to fall once and get fooled, but fall twice that ain't nice.
Let me tell you, as I started my journey once more as a single lady in the city of lights; I found myself thinking what is it that men really want? that million dollar question. But a particular query when it comes to single bachelors in Dubai.

It seems women are being taken as merchandise over a one night stand Tinder message. So I wondered is it because we have lower our standards or we simply deliver the silver platter too easily? Is it really our fault or are simply all man sport fishing and ignoring the keepers, that eventually end up becoming desperate fish?
Yes, I know they say there are plenty of fish in the sea, but when are there too many, or too much?

Heads up "gentleman" here drops the bomb of truth straight talk, no chaser.
Women are starting to learn to act like a lady and think like a man, don't be surprised after we decided to move forward and suddenly you've realized you've lost the trail of the train.
In a multicultural city like Dubai, both men and woman have the privilege of dating anyone form any age, nationality, religion, language, culture and more.
We are blessed with diversity, but is this really a privilege or a down side of dating?
Many have stated the initial sparks that light up the fire in a relationship, are beyond any other emotion. They say when you meet someone so different it makes you somehow infatuated, you become a fascination to each other at a point that differences is what brings and holds them together. You learn from each other's languages, multicultural differences it becomes a somehow passion of interests. But how far can this go?

Can eventually this differences come in between when it comes to compromise? marriage? children? living together or building up a household? 

It's is not easy neither a piece of cake, to build a household where the language is not even something you both have in common. When it comes to arguments you can't even express that eagerness as clear as you wish you could; because emotions scream inside of you in your own language, but your head is taking it's time to translate. We get lost in translation.
It is simply not that easy, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

We all like to bake our cake and eat it too.
But can some things be more powerful than love, to the point of loving someone ever so deeply, that difference no longer matter, but you simply can't be together? Just because you can't be with that person, does it mean you don't love them anymore? 

God may know the answer to this question, for all I know is that for love, we give it all. Some of us our family, other's our friends, we leave our countries and give our backs to the past. But we never forget who we are, no matter how far we go, we will always be ourselves, even if a small part of us changes for others. At the end of the day, we all are product of the past and the present, in this journey of self-encounter.

So all my single/taken or even married ladies out there, this one is for you.
Always keep in mind it is not that easy to date and find love in the city, but it is easier to keep truth to yourself and never forget who you are, as you give your all for love. 

Be with the one who loves you for who you are, and cherish every aspect of your personality. Embrace your self-awareness, recognize your inner and outer beauty.

Emancipate into the woman you want to be!
BE who YOU want to BE careless of what anyone thinks about!
LIVE life as you want and wish to, no matter how hard or rough the path may get, rock your boat till you get to safe land and remember to learn from every step you take.

"Let your life be history, not just something memorable"
XOXO