Wednesday, September 3, 2014

"Is Dating in Dubai Easier Than Saying Goodbye..?"

An unexpected emancipation was brought upon my life, after more than 4 years in a relationship I've found myself single again, advising other desperate girls not to make the same mistakes.
It is not easy to fall once and get fooled, but fall twice that ain't nice.
Let me tell you, as I started my journey once more as a single lady in the city of lights; I found myself thinking what is it that men really want? that million dollar question. But a particular query when it comes to single bachelors in Dubai.
It seems women are being taken as merchandise over a one night stand Tinder message. So I wondered is it because we have lower our standards or we simply deliver the silver platter too easily? Is it really our fault or are simply all man sport fishing and ignoring the keepers, that eventually end up becoming desperate fish?
Yes, I know they say there are plenty of fish in the sea, but when are there too many, or too much?

Heads up "gentleman" here drops the bomb of truth straight talk, no chaser.
Women are starting to learn to act like a lady and think like a man, don't be surprised after we decided to move forward and suddenly you've realized you've lost the trail of the train.
In a multicultural city like Dubai, both men and woman have the privilege of dating anyone form any age, nationality, religion, language, culture and more.
We are blessed with diversity, but is this really a privilege or a down side of dating?
Many have stated the initial sparks that light up the fire in a relationship, are beyond any other emotion. They say when you meet someone so different it makes you somehow infatuated, you become a fascination to each other at a point that differences is what brings and holds them together. You learn from each other's languages, multicultural differences it becomes a somehow passion of interests. But how far can this go?
Can eventually this differences come in between when it comes to compromise? marriage? children? living together or building up a household? 
It's is not easy neither a piece of cake, to build a household where the language is not even something you both have in common. When it comes to arguments you can't even express that eagerness as clear as you wish you could; because emotions scream inside of you in your own language, but your head is taking it's time to translate. We get lost in translation.
It is simply not that easy, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

We all like to bake our cake and eat it too.
But can some things be more powerful than love, to the point of loving someone ever so deeply, that difference no longer matter, but you simply can't be together? Just because you can't be with that person, does it mean you don't love them anymore? 
God may know the answer to this question, for all I know is that for love, we give it all. Some of us our family, other's our friends, we leave our countries and give our backs to the past. But we never forget who we are, no matter how far we go, we will always be ourselves, even if a small part of us changes for others. At the end of the day, we all are product of the past and the present, in this journey of self-encounter.

So all my single/taken or even married ladies out there, this one is for you.
Always keep in mind it is not that easy to date and find love in the city, but it is easier to keep truth to yourself and never forget who you are, as you give your all for love. 
Be with the one who loves you for who you are, and cherish every aspect of your personality. Embrace your self-awareness, recognize your inner and outer beauty.
Emancipate into the woman you want to be!
BE who YOU want to BE careless of what anyone thinks about!
LIVE life as you want and wish to, no matter how hard or rough the path may get, rock your boat till you get to safe land and remember to learn from every step you take.

"Let your life be history, not just something memorable"
XOXO