'A Dubai Love Anecdote'

As Helen Fisher, leading expert on the biology of love and attraction, once said:

"Love is enough, is deeply embedded in the brain. Our challenge is to understand each other".

I found myself intrigued on a Wednesday evening with the thought of how do we choose who we love? The thought of why him? why her?

What ticks on our brain that makes us take this acertative decision?

We are often thought that 'LOVE is a battlefield' or 'you can't choose who you love', when it is a matter of a mutual understanding.

It is not about how much we have in common, but more of how much time we are willing to invest to get involved with each other and grow together as one.

I often see the unfortunate lost oportunities of young adults in Dubai, who struggle to find somone to love, or at least share a wothy invested 'good time', and by that I mean not just for the sake of having FUN.

We come from a generation from the '90's baby boomers' who are:

*the risk-takers who like the idea of change

*they like to be regarded as individuals;

*they place a higher priority on experiences over possessions;

*they place a higher priority on fun over duty;

*they are searching for balance in life

*and they want TO HAVE IT ALL

The reason why I capitalize the last particular characteristic, is cause unfortunately this is what drives 'risk takers' to the idea of why settle for one, if I can have them all?

And THIS unfortunately leads to the disbelief of Monogamy.

We are a generation who’s parents used to get married and have their first child by their mid 20s, and now some of us reach their 30s doubting if that moment will ever come.

So this is the point where we question, what about you? me? and the one's around us?

We can't point fingers at each other, that will only lead to an endless circle of doubt.

It is all about 'perspective', starting from your own and where do we go from here?

The who, what and why? It all starts with yourself.

How satisfied are you at this point of your life to be ready to share that happiness with somebody else. You got to ask yourself are you going to be someone to add on to another person's life, or just another burden to deal with?

It is all about the right timing. 

When you find yourself in that moment of self gratification, anything or anyone who comes along will only be and add on to your life.

And no one or anything, should take that inner burst of satisfaction away.

In other words, stay true to yourself and let those around you absorb from your energy.

'Rendezvous'

As time passes by, just when I thought we had left it all behind.

You stormed back into my life, as if time never passed by.

A year and a half later, here we are again.

Rendezvous of memories, memories left behind.

Just when I had the chance to tell you, now you know how much I felt for you.

I loved you and I could see the same within you.

Two broken hearts, we found comfort in each other’s arms.

We may not have taken the right path, but for all I know, you and I where something left behind.

Like chasing turning tables, in search of a silver lining, unexpectedly we cross each other’s path.

Until we meet again, I guess time will tell.

Like a dejavu, the years have passed by.

Don’t reel me back in if you can’t handle what comes within.

If I have lost you once, I can loose you twice but the feelings in my heart I can’t disguise.

With fear of being hurt again, we lived, we let go but we didn’t forget.

I am no longer afraid to take the leap of faith.

I own who I am and I know what I want.

This is me and you know me damn well.

‘In the end, we will only regret, the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have and the decisions we waited too long to make’.

'The Non Apologetic Letter'

Dedicated to all the young girls, who feel pressured by the rules and expectations of society; to make it through in the world we live in.

I would like to NOT apologize:

For being in my 20s and enjoy every bittersweet moment in my life, where I have learned to let go and enjoy being no one, but myself.
For learning from every mistake and outgrow to become a better person.

I will not apologize for not living by the standards of society and NOT care about what you or others think about myself. 

I will live for my life and no one else's.

I will not apologize for standing up for my rights, my voice, my career, for stepping up the ladder for no one but myself.

I will not apologize for NOT depending on a man and providing myself my own education, housing, luxury and leisure.

I will not feel ashamed of being single and enjoying my single-hood while society expects me to be married with my first child. 

*I will not apologize for not settling in for the convenient, but rather strive for the beyond compare.

I will not apologize for embracing my sexuality and openly talk about it while braking the sexual taboo.

I will not apologize for my standards of sexuality, relationships and marriage.

I will not apologize for embracing my natural body and not modifying it according to anyone's idea of beauty. I will be no one but myself.

I will not apologize for expressing my opinion and putting my thoughts to paper.

I will not apologize for standing up for myself and others who may not raise their voice, afraid of judgement.

I will not apologize for anything worthy of myself; for building myself up as a woman and EMBRACE every essence of my nature.

I will not be distracted by comparison, but instead be captivated with purpose; LIVE for my calling in life. I will BE who I strive to become.

'Attraversiamo'

An Italian term entitled for 'let's cross over' taking a step forward, leaving the past behind.

As cliche as it may sound, I believe there are certain people in life that come across your path for a reason. I like to call them 'passengers' those whom I've had the opportunity to come across; who have taught me to enjoy 'la dolce far niente' the sweetness of doing nothing, but to listen to the sweet melody of life.

I believe in the bittersweet taste of happiness as collective fragments of 'memorable moments in time' all that together making a whole on itself. Those fragments in time, that I've had the opportunity to share with a significant others, those moments which I look back at and I have no absolute regrets. 

Those moments that awaken my hunger for life. 

Those memories that take me back and give birth to dreams that take me forward.

In life I've learned to live and let go, regardless of the circumstances there is no point on trying to awaken what is already left behind. You can spend your present remenicing in the past and then rest-assured you will miss out on present opportunities.

Open your eyes to what is in front of you 'cross over' fearless, curious and hungry for more.

Learn to live for yourself, at the end it is your life you are living for, as selfish as it may sound.

Learn to flavor life with a different palate, change your perspectives, live out of the ordinary.

In the end life may be difficult at times, or simply not easy but nothing is impossible; when the word itself says 'IM possible'.